tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post9050189780399604542..comments2009-09-23T15:27:17.600+05:30Anitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15873744946960833335noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-9676522649037099592009-09-23T15:27:17.600+05:302009-09-23T15:27:17.600+05:30Hi!<br /><br />Very well written post. However, i beg to differ on one point! U wrote, &quot;This automatically means, you don’t have to have a kid at 27,buy a house at 28 and have a second kid at 30.&quot; Now... That seems like a statement from the &#39;last generation&#39;! What makes u think that all married women today have 2 kids by 30 and give up their careers when they get married? I&#39;m 30, married for 4 years now, no kids, a good job which pays very well. And i&#39;m not the only one. Look around yourself... i&#39;m sure u&#39;ll see many others like me! So though ur post was talking about moving forward and opening our minds, seems to me that ur idea of marriage and married women is a &#39;hangover from the last generation&#39;!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-81064272509524405192008-07-09T03:25:01.691+05:302008-07-09T03:25:01.691+05:30Cool Posts!<BR/><BR/>Though I am married, I can see the depth in what you say. I strongly recommend that you girls take your time in what ever you do. Marriage is just another phase in life, why should it panic you if it came a little later for some of us. Truly, I would like to be on the other side, not because of my husband, but just for the fun side of it. <BR/>Enjoy it while you have, you are going to miss it. I personally feel, an independent fun loving single woman seems to be more powerful than a married counterpart :(Sunshinenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-92124990232414484102008-06-27T02:30:47.854+05:302008-06-27T02:30:47.854+05:30Nicely Said! I'm 26 and married happily but I totally agree with whatever you have written, Keep writing!! It's good to read your blog :)MEHA~~http://www.blogger.com/profile/04739743416617827095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-76693656370835590512008-06-12T20:56:53.885+05:302008-06-12T20:56:53.885+05:30ganesh's page - that was a nice story :) and thanks for adding post to your favAnitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15873744946960833335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-88172814267187824812008-06-12T13:06:56.648+05:302008-06-12T13:06:56.648+05:30Hmm i am 37 and just travelling my memory lane to 27... after reading this post..Was thinking of shifting career to IT due to Y2K problems...Many of my friends have packed their bag and each month some body is leaving.. So as i prepare for career shift, my family has different plans.. A guy alone in mumbai is nt viewed as good back home in my town ..And astrologer played his part as well..Just visited my home town and seen 3 girls.. in 2 days and flown back to mumbai.. When it came to shortlisting , i gave it to my family ..and I am happy now..<BR/>Abt my wife.. She was 26 then .. doing Ph.D in anatomy at Jipmer and wud take another year or so to complete.. when i luk back , probably choice was nt given to her as well due to cut off age i guess.. Doing Ph D and marriage is nt best option at all. Both of us were nt prepared for marriage. Failed in crossing the cutt off age hurdle of the society but successful in our lives..Good posting and added to my fav listGanesh's Pagehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04199954023835154949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-26051548422766875772008-06-11T22:39:27.713+05:302008-06-11T22:39:27.713+05:30Twilightfairy - yup. people find it strange!Anitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15873744946960833335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-82612229337314038192008-06-09T16:02:44.261+05:302008-06-09T16:02:44.261+05:30Can identify with every word here. Am a single "independent" woman who's over 30 now, has her own house, lives in it on her own terms, though her parents stay in the same city. Never heard of something like this - most of the ppl who meet me - say this. Most ppl think I am crazy, all my friends obv think i am ignoring my biological clock, my parents dont stop reminding me how everything else that's great is not so great because mariage is important too.. but yes, I wish life could go on like this forever! With no need of marriage, kids and a spouse.Twilight Fairyhttp://blog.twilightfairy.innoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-20734670534300851482008-06-05T21:46:05.170+05:302008-06-05T21:46:05.170+05:30Madhumita - Thanks!Anitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15873744946960833335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-55518937691685813212008-06-05T19:46:53.301+05:302008-06-05T19:46:53.301+05:30Loved the quote..."Enjoy being yourself. You are more interesting than you think."<BR/><BR/>This was an excellent read...irrespective of whether you are married or not...I believe there is a "single girl" very much alive even within a "married woman"...I believe they can co-exist..<BR/><BR/>Keep writing.<BR/><BR/>-Madhumita (happily married for 12 years, and still enjoyed your post immensely)<BR/>(madhumita.datta@yahoo.com)Madhumita Dattahttp://madhumitadattablogs.sulekha.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-30606623806187811802008-06-01T23:39:19.864+05:302008-06-01T23:39:19.864+05:30I'm 22 and not at this point yet but this is something I've been thinking about for the past few months. It just doesn't make sense to marry because the 'right age' is about to pass. Isn't marriage about companionship and love? And when that doesn't exist [or there is no scope for it] then why marriage at all? To jump into a lifetime of regret and misery to avoid 'society's' nagging? <BR/><BR/>I'm bookmarking this because it's so well written and THANK YOU for this =)Acenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-32789978667912619922008-05-28T21:41:50.916+05:302008-05-28T21:41:50.916+05:30arnie - think entrophy and byker7 have put in points i would have anyway covered. so will leave it at that. <BR/><BR/>rzd - thanksAnitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15873744946960833335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-6381637132248680762008-05-28T18:06:16.148+05:302008-05-28T18:06:16.148+05:30Byker 7, <BR/>agree with you totally.<BR/>Zen.Entropyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13061875356335976938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-42857905973187255572008-05-28T18:03:05.592+05:302008-05-28T18:03:05.592+05:30What exactly is "If you are 27+ and single , stop giving excuses and consoling yourself with such posts, it is high time that you should get married and have children." supposed to mean? <BR/><BR/>I would think that 6 billion people bleeding the planet dry, is reason enough to not make propagation of the species a biological or sociological imperative for marriage.byker7http://www.blogger.com/profile/10309775269452483986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-42608480911413123122008-05-28T09:47:40.613+05:302008-05-28T09:47:40.613+05:30p.s. Anita, please correct me if I misunderstood your post. <BR/>(damn! commenting is addictive. I can't seem to stop.)<BR/>:-)<BR/>ZenEntropyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13061875356335976938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-38195981008433951272008-05-28T09:44:32.642+05:302008-05-28T09:44:32.642+05:30Arnie,<BR/>One could consider taking you seriously if you had given some reason or logic for your statements.<BR/><BR/>From your comment on days and nights being spent alone, I assume that your personality is the kind that results in solitude and some distress. In case you didn't understand me, let me explain. Those who have friends and family and are popular, do not need marriage to fill gaps in their lives. <BR/><BR/>In case you didn't understand the post, it is not against marriage. But it makes the point that there is no reason to be against singleness (is 'singleness' a word?) either.<BR/><BR/>Zen.Entropyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13061875356335976938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-32305744083975104202008-05-28T09:25:54.599+05:302008-05-28T09:25:54.599+05:30Hi Satpreet,<BR/>I loved your quote. Applies beautifully to every facet of life - personal or professional.<BR/>ZenEntropyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13061875356335976938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-14089534904758713612008-05-28T02:30:42.964+05:302008-05-28T02:30:42.964+05:30My thoughts exactly, well written too.RZDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17832123465791425798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-5522841903975187122008-05-27T23:35:46.699+05:302008-05-27T23:35:46.699+05:30Hi Anita,<BR/><BR/>A nice post...<BR/>May I ask you a question?how old are you?and are you single?<BR/>If you are 27+ and single , stop giving excuses and consoling yourself with such posts, it is high time that you should get married and have children.<BR/><BR/>Whatever the reason , the fact of the matter is you are a single and spend ur nights(and of course days ) alone .<BR/><BR/>If you are not single , please forgive me and ignore this comment.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Regards,<BR/>arnieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-58452759219099367132008-05-27T22:39:33.188+05:302008-05-27T22:39:33.188+05:30mukta.s, satpreet - Thanks!<BR/><BR/>error - yup. been there, done that<BR/><BR/>tita - very trueAnitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15873744946960833335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-21248215659226302172008-05-27T20:00:57.353+05:302008-05-27T20:00:57.353+05:30Anita,<BR/><BR/>My first reaction reading this blog- U deserve a big applause and a hug. Loved reading it. Also felt that u have translated my thoughts into words.<BR/>Any plans of shifting into Professional Writing?? Well this too is professional writing......Gr8 job.<BR/><BR/>Girls/women always being attached to their father, Brothers or husbands right from birth always forget themselves as an entity and that they too have a life and wishes to fulfill.<BR/><BR/>The society out here, the family outlook or the mindset that gets inculcated in a girl/daughter while growing up makes a girl also to think in a single direction irrespective of her success or achievements in life. And most of the time we follow the lead blindly. A feeling creeps in in most people is that settled life for a girl starts when she is married.<BR/>As u rightly said we need to respect ourselves of what we are and where we are.<BR/><BR/>What i feel is come on, wakeup, there is more to life than just being married. U are an Individual apart from being a daughter, sister, wife or sister in law. <BR/><BR/>This is only one life no one knows what lies tomorrow so leave every moment to the fullest.Titahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13437881077068325671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-8885101922994228212008-05-27T16:58:14.456+05:302008-05-27T16:58:14.456+05:30Loved it.. m 25 n see d same questions proppong up!All keep saying now u have frnds when all r married u wnt have nyone arnd. But I keep telling them then I ll get new sets of friends. But ur idea tht even they after their initial flush of marriage wud also be ready to be part of the ole times.. in fact gives some solace. N i m already seeing tht happening with my married friends....<BR/><BR/>Nice to know u thru this!!Errornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-69949227561691130012008-05-27T12:01:31.266+05:302008-05-27T12:01:31.266+05:30Added to my list of favorite quotes:<BR/><BR/>"It is a tragedy of human race that when we are given the opportunity to have all the adventures we want, instead of grabbing it with open hands and letting loose our imagination, we cry in anguish at having missed out on joining the stereotype."<BR/><BR/>So true -- couldn't have put it across better...Satpreethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00735298429611768189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-86770705418201870142008-05-27T08:00:08.578+05:302008-05-27T08:00:08.578+05:30I am glad there are people alive who think your way.......I loved your thoughtsmukta.shttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10527932625916142217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-79200791551380619492008-05-26T19:19:25.825+05:302008-05-26T19:19:25.825+05:30Sonal, Aqua, Anshul, Ace - Thanks!<BR/><BR/>Sirensongs - Yup and it is tough to convince someone once they have made up their minds that this is what they want at any cost<BR/><BR/>Z - totally agree on the Mona Lisa smile one<BR/><BR/>Rahul - appreciating your life as a singleton does not preclude looking out for the right person. I agree that unless you meet all kinds of people and set your expectations at reasonable levels, it is difficult finding someone. but obsessing on it is unhealthy too.<BR/><BR/>Yashita - yup, it is nice not to get caught in a blind rush. <BR/><BR/>la vida loca - yeah. there is no getting away from the 'perfect life' list.Anitahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15873744946960833335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10924403.post-59776148595919192992008-05-26T12:31:22.027+05:302008-05-26T12:31:22.027+05:30very good one.. Most of it suits single men too.. <BR/><BR/>//the first time in your life, here is a chance to be yourself.//<BR/><BR/>Well said.. Realised this is the way to live after reaching 30. <BR/><BR/>Good luck :)சிங்கம்லே ACE !!http://www.blogger.com/profile/15489953260326971039noreply@blogger.com